Owning our Scars


I hate scars! I was a little clumsy as a kid, and I have the scars to prove it.  I remember one time I tripped on a rock while running, and I had to get six stitches. The next day in school all my friends kept asking me what happened.  I ended up just trying to cover it up because it was weird looking and ugly.

I only told that story because I ran across a great quote last night.

“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” – Unknown

 We all have our scars, both physical and emotional scars.  Whether they’re stitches or a bad break up, scars are scars. Although our wounds may take time to heal and even scar; the beauty in our scars is that they remind us of our strength.


P.S. Here’s the Quote of the Day

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  1. aguycalledbloke

    Hey Marcus – excellent post. I do wear my scars with pride these days – not the pride of vanity – but the scars of achievement – of getting through the dark times, the times when death looked attractive – of getting through the dankest and darkest tunnels that our mind can create – this is my pride. so thank you for your post – because it’s true – our scars make us who we are today.

    1. Marcus Hackney

      Beautifully said! Thanks, I’m happy this post reminded you of your strength

  2. Leigha

    I have to say thank you for writing this post. So much! I feel like you posted this on the perfect day… Six months ago, today, I had attempted suicide. I was in a really dark place. I felt so trapped and as if I was suffocating. My drug addiction was dragging me down so far that I didn`t thing i`d ever escape all my pain and the pain that I had caused my family and friends. I woke up in the ER and was told that I received 18 stitches but was still alive thanks to one of my closest friends. Your writing means so much to me. It reminds me that just because I have even more scars, it does not mean that I failed. It just proves that I am stronger than ever. It showed me how fragile life is. It reminded me that our lives are a special and priceless gift. So again, thank you for writing this. On this day. I needed it.

    1. Marcus Hackney

      Leigha, I’m so so happy this post reminded you how precious life is. Our scars tell our stories. Use your story to help someone else who may be going through something similar. I’m grateful that you are still here living today, you’re life is worth it ! Thanks so much your words mean a lot

  3. Pazlo

    Did you know that scar tissue is thicker, i.e. STRONGER than that which it replaces?

    So, too, are we.

    Seek peace,


  4. asfamobin

    Great words Marcus! Even I had written a poem SCARS some time back, same sentiment different words!

  5. Jeanne

    Reminders are great. I remember a lady, my age. Came in for counseling. Anxious as all hell. Two hours later, stories that have left scars on my soul, i noticed on her face, a place her son tried to remove her from his life. J🕊

  6. Keith A Kenny

    Indeed, scars say more about a person than tattoos. Once I took my son in for stitches. I told him when others asked, just tell them the truth, he’d gotten them from a fight in a hockey game … don’t tell them your sister was holding the stick.

  7. Mary

    Hi Marcus, stumbled across your blog on community pool. Really love it. I am just finally getting to a place of completely owning my scars unashamedly. Today is my birthday and I have been feeling immense gratitude for all of the obstacles and lessons I’ve learned these first 25 years. It is so freeing. Thanks for this! ~mary

    1. Marcus Hackney

      Thanks Mary! Happy Birthday!

  8. Lisa

    Very true and well stated.

  9. Staci Troilo

    I love that quote. Thanks for sharing it!

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